Overanalyzing The Viral Grindr Pilot Story

For those of you not familiar with Grindr, it’s a gay location based social networking application (I think that’s the PG-rated way to describe it?).

Over the past few days a story has gone viral based on the below Tweet:

https://twitter.com/emobandtshirt/status/1066807147802042375

As you can see, it has been retweeted over 31,000 times, and has been favorited about 220,000 times. Also, if you follow any meme accounts on Instagram or anything, you may have very well seen this.

The supposed backstory of this incident

The New York Post has the story of what supposedly happened here:

  • A 27 year old was traveling from Minneapolis to Chicago on Delta in August
  • When the flight landed, he received a message from someone 90 feet away saying “I see you’re on my flight. Enjoy the ride to Chicago,” which he claims was sent 30 minutes before the plane landed
  • When he saw this, his reaction was that he needed to get off the plane as fast as he could, because he has had some weird experiences with “proximity stuff” on Grindr
  • He then decided to message the guy (after deciding he needed to get off the plane as soon as possible), and said the pilot seemed like a “nice guy”
  • When he landed in Nashville that day he decided to delete Grindr
  • He said he would have met the pilot in retrospect

Leave it to me to overanalyze this

I wouldn’t be writing about this, except the story has gone really viral, and I think there are a few inconsistencies here. I’m not suggesting anyone is lying, but rather I think at a minimum there may have been a misunderstanding here. And since many people are suggesting that it’s irresponsible for the pilot to be using Grindr during the flight, I do think it’s fair to come to the supposed pilot’s defense here.

I don’t want to say the guy on Twitter is making this up, though something doesn’t add up:

  • First of all, if you’re connected to airplane Wi-Fi, Grindr will not load and connect you to nearby people (and I’ve confirmed this with several people who are both frequent Grindr users and frequent flyers); so there’s no way the pilot messaged the passenger during the flight based on his location
  • Let’s look at the timestamps of all this — the message was supposedly sent at 5:23AM, and he says it was sent 30 minutes before landing, so unless Delta has some secretive pre-5AM departure from Minneapolis to Chicago that I’m missing, that doesn’t add up
  • It doesn’t even seem probable that the pilot could have sent this before departure; the earliest flight from Minneapolis to Chicago in the schedule departs at 6:50AM
  • While the supposed pilot’s profile picture is of a cockpit, it sure looks to me like the cockpit of a single-engine plane, based on the prop that’s in front (it’s possible I’m seeing something incorrectly here, but I’m fairly confident)
  • The guy claims he was flying Delta and was connecting the same day to Nashville, but Delta doesn’t fly from Chicago to Nashville
  • Something about the guy’s logic seems off — he’s creeped out about being messaged using a location-based networking application and decides he needs to get off the plane as quickly as possible, then talks to the guy, and then deletes the app

So yeah, not that this needs to be investigated to MH370 levels, but I think it’s safe to assume that something here really doesn’t add up, and there’s not a need for Delta to investigate or anything.

If the pilot was messaging, it was before the flight took off, and it sounds like the pilot was being appropriate. However, it seems much more likely that this was just someone else messaging pretending to be a pilot, or something. Or given the other inconsistencies, this may just be fake news altogether.

To Grindr experts, pilots, and all others — what’s your take on this situation?

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Rafa Guest

#metoo Gay edition Feels like good material for another Curb your Enthusiasm episode. Imagine Larry David perusing pilots ass to Miłe High Club.

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Derek Glass Guest

@Tim, I enjoy reading Lucky's stories that have an LGBT angle to them. If someone writes a story about two heterosexuals getting up to something on a plane, and Lucky has written about things like that many times, nobody accuses him of promoting heterosexuality. LGBT people like me and Lucky have to listen and watch heterosexuals blatantly and shamelessly parade their sexuality in front of us everyday, everywhere we go. How dare you bitch about this. You're a hypocrite and a homophobe.

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Tyler Guest

To be blunt, if the app is on your device, either respond to the messages or ignore/delete. There is no need to make a case....what's on the app can't hurt you as long as it stays on the app.

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Bill Guest

The NY Post is not known for accurate reporting, so i would keep that in mind. This is just sone guy seeking attention. The pilot if he did send it was totally respectful. Only issue i have is if this was done during the flight. If it is done while on the flight deck he should be paying attention to the plane and not on social media. This should apply to all pilots, this is not a long flight where he has off time. Also i think its inappropriate for pilots to be contacting passengers during a flight or before takeoff. What if some creepy male pilot starts hitting on a female passenger? There is a power dynamic there where a pilot can have passengers removed even if they broke no laws. This pilot didnt seem to have ill intentions but i think the risk is there and its not appropriate to message someone until the flight is over and the airline should hace a policy against this.

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StevenK Guest

@Lucky Thanks for posting this. It’s a fun story to share in a crazy world. BTW, I and I’m sure many others would like to see more of your wedding and honeymoon pictures. Please consider sharing. Have a nice day. Steve

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