Are surprise trips a good idea?

Of the millions of miles I’ve flown, my most memorable trip ever had to be the one I took with my mom the summer after I graduated from high school. We went to Australia and New Zealand, and not only is New Zealand probably the most beautiful place I’ve ever been, but we had a lot of fun as well. And I actually love traveling with my parents — they couldn’t be more supportive of what I do, and when I first told them I wanted to do “my own thing” after college they were more convinced in it than I was, and that’s despite the fact that my dad doesn’t even know how to turn on a computer, much less know what a “blog” is. If you ever meet my dad and want some quality entertainment, ask him what I do.

Anyway, sadly I haven’t been able to travel with my parents the past few years as much as I’d like to. They own a small business that requires them to open and close it every day, so taking trips is for the most part off the table. That being said, my mom has a big milestone birthday coming up next month, which may or may not be similar in number to one of my favorite Kuala Lumpur clothing stores. 😉

She has worked her ass off and deserves a trip, and I’m scrambling to figure out where to take her. While she says she just wants to go to Germany, she has never been to Asia before, so I’m really thinking I should take her there, or somewhere else she hasn’t been.

But the one thing I’m dying to do — and I’m trying to figure out whether this is a good idea or not — is make this a surprise trip. I’m sure we’ve all had the desire to do this at some point. Book a trip for a loved one and tell them to show up at the airport without knowing where they’re going. On one hand it seems exciting for both parties involved, but I wonder, does that actually maximize the happiness derived from a trip?

I’ve read plenty of articles saying that the most happiness derived from a trip comes from the anticipation as opposed to the trip itself. Is that taken away or increased when it’s a surprise?

And for that matter, where the heck should I take her? I should have probably planned this a year out.

PS: Mom, if you’re reading this, the post is obviously a joke. I planned this trip a year out and everything is set in stone, and I’m just posting this to throw you off. Yeah, let’s go with that.

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Ethan Guest

I surprised my fiancee with a trip to Germany to propose. She thought she was coming to Houston (long distance) for just a couple days, but I had her parents send some clothes and her passport to me, and we went straight back to the airport. I even had a refundable ticket for her back home to cover my tracks. She loved the surprise, and I think it made everything that much better. Definitely make sure that you've covered things like packing, etc. though.

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Hawaiianmama Guest

From my own experiences, I think most women want to know what to pack. Surprises are fun, but I hate it when I don't know exactly what I need to bring! Also, if it's longer than just a weekend getaway, it might be more fun for you & your mom to plan things together :)

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MiamiGuy Guest

Lucky, I seldom pull the age card but trust an old guy on this. Don't surprise her. Plan the trip she wants with her and add delightful things she wouldn't know about for the surprise. Children love surprises. But for parents, most surprises frankly aren't that pleasant. We pretend they are because we don't want the kids to feel they disappointed us, but just trust me on this, if your Mom says Germany, she wants Germany. Where you can surprise her is a private tour of something that interests her, or a truly great dinner out at a restaurant with relatives or friends she hasn't seen for a long time, or a professional photographer to document an outing, or the best seats at a concert. I surprised my mother on a trip she planned and wanted to take by setting up a private appointment with a perfumier who developed a signature scent. It was something she never would have done but loved. My siblings were grateful since they would restock for all gift occasions. Another time I surprised my dad at a planned golf game by playing with a PGA pro he liked. (I knew the guy's wife.) Parents like those types of things but trips to Hong Kong when we wanted Germany, not so much. Well, you did ask...

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Larry Guest

If your mom says "Germany" do NOT surprise her with Asia! Maybe mix in Austria instead. Just sayin....

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Downunder girl Guest

EDIT: Actually now I remember....I walked up to F class check in with her and that's when she knew! SO excited. Good luck with what you decide with your Mom. I think as we get older we do become less appreciative of "surprises". My Mom freaked when I arranged a surprise 60th Birthday and got her friends from life and work (current and past) and best friend from another state to attend, without her knowing. She was so overwhelmed it took the fun out of it for her. Lets say I learned my lesson and will NEVER do another surprise event like that for her again. Let us know what you do decide :) DG

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